Two into one

by | 27 Feb, 2020 | General

The opposite of oneness of course is “duality”.
Our daily life is made up of opposites: happy or sad, black or white, up or down, light or heavy, boy or girl. But in the idea of oneness (and this surfaces in every religion in the world), points to a state beyond such duality.
Imagine a pendulum. The more we are mired in duality, the wider the swing between opposite emotional states. I’ve been there myself, so I know what I’m talking about here. Waking up not knowing how you’re going to feel, on a continuum that stretches from wild euphoria to abject despair. And having seemingly no control over it.
Now that’s all changed, and mood swings on that scale are so far in my past I can barely remember them. It’s a move from a state of being sucked into opposites to a state which encompasses both and sees a natural balance.
So the idea of oneness isn’t some vague hippy concept we can all smoke along to, it’s a journey. Because as you progress – however slowly – from duality to oneness, the swings become far less pronounced.
Take my example.The first time I ever got crucified online my reaction was panicky, wide-eyed, desperately trying to dig myself out of a hole. Now, 5 years later, if these things happen I barely notice.
So what’s happened? Is it just a case of getting used to things? Not really, because there are people who are capable of being hurt over and over again, with never-decreasing intensity. It’s more about taking a step upwards, to a point where, like a satellite, you look down on these things with increasing distance. Your mother’s little jibes, your friend’s snide remark, your partner’s complaint, your teenage daughter’s offhand sting. None of it matters so much, because you’ve moved, quite literally, “beyond” that stuff.
And as you move up, as you “satellise” (to coin a word), the extremes of reaction get ever so slightly less wide. Until you take in your stride things that would once have knocked you for six.
Just like a rail track, which appears wide beneath your feet, but disappears at the horizon into a single point. Similarly, a satellite floating in orbit sees both day and night at the same time.
That’s where we’re trying to head. And no, not in the depths of meditation, but on a Wednesday morning, right here in real life.